Relations

Want to give the background, I started studying , analysing relation after listening to the album named MARASIM. The name MARASIM is an urdu word which means relations.

The serial by which I came to know about MARASIM was SPARSH, in which the director ANAND RAI chose IRRFAN KHAN as an emotional and philosophical character and by him so many very touchy dialogues weree delivered. To mention a few :--

" Humans are dog which can lick one's leg for the whole life if the person guarntees him a loaf of LOVE uninterruptably. "

"Relation is like a mirror. Even though by any reason the mirror isn't broken by any shock , it keeps the scar of the damage throughout the life afterwards. "


Okay, it was history what I was talking about.

Coming back to the recent days, FARHAN AKHTAR said in an interview , after the super success of DIL CHAHTA HAI , that FRIENDHSIP or any other relation as such can be maintained over the years if and only if the both the persons in the relation are given equal space. One should never try to dominate the other one.

Well, again it was not the present , so coming back to present once again .....

So, the point I am trying to make out over here is , how to maintain a relation. But is it all ?? If it is done then eerything 'll be fine ?? I doubt ....

Thing is, EXPECTATION is human nature. One starts expecting whenever s/he gets an opportunity. So what it leads us to is, expcting more and more space , more and more respaect ( if relation is very formal) , more and more understanding and lesser and lesser excuses .

Sighting a very recent example , if someone is coming for e-ticket booking to me or for that matter to anybody, he should also think what or how he can express his gratitude to him. I do know that I am being too formal , but it is the situaton which was demanding this form that person towards me. Because after very recent pathch- up between us , when I approached for a very silly doubt what , evern he got from other resources , was offered or explained properly and sort of arrogance , what I 've always found with him, was clearly visible. But again he came back to me for his very purpose and started dominating.

One thing that I like to share is, someway it is one's responsibility to check that he is not being used or being taken granted. Also, if it happened for the first time then ok, but if again and again it is happening then, matter is pretty serious and one needs self examination.

So, end of the day the onus is upon both the person to maintain a relationship and if the other guy is casual enough then at first he should be counselled and again if he is doing the same then one should understand it clearly that HE DOESN'T DESERVE TO BE IN THAT RELATION.

Peace out for now.